The moment I was discharged from the hospital, I hadn’t the smallest idea of what my life is going to be when I step out of the door. A perplexed face thinking ; how very ignorant, careless and immature I was until the night before (Having to go to my mom for almost everything) and here I become a 23 year old mom on the spur of the moment. WAIT! ‘I don’t know beans about babies are they literally going to just let me walk off with him.. just like that’?? maybe I should get a license or perhaps a step by step manual on how to raise a baby ALL ON YOUR OWN’ 😛
Well hello dear friend,
That’s all of us, exactly what we all think after our first baby. But trust me with that first ever snuggle, you realise you have never felt so empowered in your life and against all odds, you prove to be the best possible care taker of your baby. 🙂
My 10 months of being a mother and observant interactions with other moms made me realise that most of them flounder about raising kids, and there is a lot of struggle that prevails consequently taking the true essence out of the experience, and hence reducing it to a job when it’s only the beginning of a beautiful journey. You just need to work it out rationally! However, you are sure to experience some major Momstacles, some of which I have listed and learned the hard way.
Life as a mom is hysterical and often filled with the mommy guilt which comes as part and parcel.
You’re always overthinking and being over protective. And you are under constant pressure of having to prove (to everyone around) that you’re engaging with the baby 24/7, and that you are NURSING him right. Ignore any criticism about your mom skills because people would just like to comment on how you are spoiling him by picking him too much to how you are ignoring him if you’re not always picking him up! Yes that could be intimidating, and trying to be perfect will only make you crazy!!
In order to enjoy the perks of motherhood, you first need to take sometime out for yourself. You definitely need your long warm baths or those stress relief trips to the spas. And Don’t fret, The baby shall gradually adapt to whatever schedule YOU set if you’re lucky enough, and if not there are plethora of ways to try and do so. Remember a guilty mama who is stuck in perplexity is not doing anyone any good. In order for your baby to be happy, alert and socially engaged at all times, YOU need to work on your time management skills so as to make the both of you content. A young mom today is capable of achieving everything in life amidst the hectic lifestyle. Don’t just shut yourself down. And most importantly, its completely OKAY to ask for a helper/nanny when need be..
‘sleep when the baby sleeps’ is a mere joke because not everyone can fall asleep on a dime! (at least i cant) there is no denying that you will completely have to forget what sleeping through the night feels like.
Bfing or bottle feeding, in either case you spend a good one hour feeding/involuntarily dozing off, every 3 to 4 hours if you satisfy the baby. read: newborn babies. and if you don’t, then you may struggle to even catch a catnap. So Maybe you can make up for the sleep in the day? Or afternoon? LOL Just kidding! You cant!!! Because be ready to jump up even at the faintest sound. But you get through this too and trust me its easier done than said. (just don’t stress over your dark circles going fifty shades darker :P) also its easier to combat sleeplessness if you have a caring partner, you just might get a couple of hours of sleep as a bonus every now and then while he plays the daddy. Even if you are breastfeeding, expressing milk works as a lifesaver when you have someone agreeing to do the night shift for you.
#OH MY WEIGHT
Weight is perhaps the biggest concern of all new moms. Where you are totally enthralled by the arrival of the angel, you equally hate your self when you look in the mirror. Those unattractive extra fat slabs on the arm or thighs, those wider hips ,loose tummy, the double chin all this can distress you to an extent where you lose your self confidence resulting in you cutting off from the world and becoming anti social.
In severe cases (like mine) you may even start hating your partner. Above all, looking at those Hollywood moms losing all the weight and flaunting their skinny bodies may daunt you even more. But remember; it took you 9 long months to get the baby out of you! And it sure as hell is going to take a little while to get you back in shape. well some girls are lucky enough to lose all the baby fat in less than six months. (Which was in my case) for majority of them it might take a year to say the least. But you are not alone! Your foremost priority is the baby and its health. Lactating mother or otherwise, you must not go on a hunger strike. Its only going to reflect on your baby. healthy eating and taking calcium and vitamin supplements is a must for at least 3 months. To get all the energy back which your body lost during childbirth. After which its advised to maybe squeeze in a little bit of workout in your routine. But again not too hardcore. You may also get your massages done as soon as your stitches heal.The massages definitely does wonders. And for those of you who successfully breastfeed,trust me you’re going to lose all the extra pounds in a matter of a few months. Just be patient!
‘will I be able to breastfeed?”
The biggest fear and question of a new mom. Making the choice to breastfeed is a great one considering the many health benefits for both you and the baby. it can be very daunting with constant pressure from the entire world!! For some, feeding comes naturally. While those who struggle with the latch might need some time to get used to it or maybe get a lactation consultant? Naah.. don’t stress too much just you tube how to lactate and make your life less complex.What comes next is the real deal. To establish regular feedings and meeting your babies demands in the early days. While your babies tummy is only the size of cherry, it may need feeding every hour differing from baby to baby
and depending upon your milk supply. it can be overexerting, but looking at the brighter side, the regular feedings is melting down your fatty slabs, its also healing those tears down there which probably a lot of people don’t tend to notice. Also, never doubt your supply. The milk is said to ‘come in’ after three days of regular feedings.
Having said that,there are mothers who fail to lactate for various reasons, and there are women who just don’t wish to,let me tell you its ABSOLUTELY normal my friend .Breastfeeding is a personal choice and its your right to choose what is right for you and the baby. Just don’t fret. You may speak with the paediatrician for the formula options/dosage.
There clearly are many momstacles that a new mom has to go through, the list can just go on. You may have faced something entirely different. I would love to hear from you.Because who else can understand it better than us moms